It's a rant. Apoligies in advance.
I'm hearing more and more 'What if dance fails and you'll need something to fall back on'. Wait one second, what if doing A-Levels or going to University fails and then what have you got to fall back on? Why must we use the word fail and fall? I actually think I've heard this about six times this week (it's only Tuesday) and it upsets me muchly. I whole-heartedly worry what it's doing to the kid's ability to believe in following dreams who get told this non-stop. There are so many further education options now!
I went to college at 16. It had it's positives and it had it's negatives. I do not have A-levels but I have a BA Hons Degree, I've written a book, toured the world and have a seleciton of teaching qualifications but most importantly above any of the qualifications I have desire and drive. I honestly think I have got this far in life and become successful purely because I want to. I've worked hard at something I WANT to do.
I do not have kids, so I know some parents will look at this and say you'll act differently when you're child wants to do a career that is unstable. However, my comeback will be, name a career that is stable at this current time? What sort of place is our country going to be in two years time? Sometimes you've got to be strict with the child that's not working at school, or revising at home, but dont be too strict on the kid that you can see trying. (I also worked in retail and as a waitress, it was a journey!)
If your kid wants a career in the performing arts, let them follow that dream. If they're that passionate about it they'll make it work, and if they don't make it work, they'll make something else work. Trust that you've bought up your kid to be a fighter and someone that doesn't quit, teach them how to save money, teach them how to stand up for themselves, teach them how to use the washing machine but don't stress at them for not knowing their GCSE poems. Kids that perform are passionate, highly strung, often exceedingly emotional but also have the ability to time manage, multitask and be realistic. More often than not they're perfectionists - but I don't see that as a negative! Teach you're kids to be passionate about everything they apply themselves to and you will not need to worry about them.
If you had asked my Mum or Dad what 'Rosina's back up plan was at 16'...they'd have probably said they didn't know, I don't think I had one? I remember saying I'd do my A-levels later and become an painter when I retire. I've still not needed to apply my back up plan because I've backed up everything I've ever done with my wholeself. What better back up plan than knowing that whatever is shot at your child you know they have the drive to bypass it.
In my experience, (and my goodness, they tell me everything) denying a young performer the ability to follow their dreams is like shooting yourself in the foot. They will rebel and they will rebel hard. Listen to them.
Happy people = Successful people.
Now this is not me saying let your dancer get away with murder, I love discipline more than I do use of the inner thigh, but do not keep telling your kids they need education to fall back on...teach them life skills to fall back on instead. (I also highly value education!)
(I got 14 GCSEs; 9 A's, 4 A*s and a B - which ironically was in physics!
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